A Deep Dive into Modern Intimacy and Dating I feel like I could be writing my dissertation for a PHD in Failed Romance right now. There is no one more qualified in this subject area than I. While I understand that I am not perfect, I have a strong inclination that the majority of single…

I think my online persona makes it pretty obvious that I’d love to be the star of a reality show or a dating competition. If you read Mishaps & Mistakes, you could probably attest that the first half felt like you were reading biographies of the men competing for my heart. This is not accidental.…

It doesn’t matter if you’re gay, straight, or something in between. We’ve all heard it said: “It’s not you, it’s me.” There may not be a more frustrating line than that one. Especially since it always seems to come after the dude spent weeks or months making you feel like his top priority. Men have…

I used to imagine I’d have everything figured out by 25. I’d be married, have a kid or two, work a job that I loved and made lots of money doing. Now, here I am, almost halfway to being 27, very single, childless, and working a job that I cannot afford to live off of.…

If you have ever had the pleasure of knowing a queer person, there is absolutely no doubt in my mind that they have tried to educate you on their music taste. It’s a canonical event, actually. The gays watch music videos at the same intensity level as an Olympian trains for their respective race. I…

There’s something so insanely special about being a writer. Having the ability and the honor of being able to tell a story is such a gift. The old tale goes that practice makes perfect. I would like to argue and say that you cannot always practice your way into being good at something. In the…

Well, well, well. I left you all with such an impactful story on Valentine’s Day and ghosted you right after. My sincere apologies for pulling a Taylor Swift on you. I guess you could say I am in my reputation era currently. And honestly, in some ways, I am. You see, I cannot just churn…

People forget that the ideas writers come up with all stem from a different source. Every character a writer creates is a culmination of parts and pieces from characters the writer idolized before. But this is not a post about a fictional character and who I developed them from. This is about me and the…

I am one of the most OCD-style people I know. I like things to be organized a certain way; my towels must be folded in the style I like or I’ll flip. It shouldn’t come as a shock when I tell you that I treat my writing the same way. My ideas and manuscripts are…

I cannot even begin to tell you how much of a struggle it is to write sometimes. You’re probably thinking to yourself, “But Joseph, this is what you do.” Yeah, yeah, yeah, whatever. I’m still a human. I get exhausted just thinking about whatever god-awful responsibility reality is going to throw my way today. It’s…

            After writing that post expressing how it feels to work my sexuality into my creativity, I think it’s only fair that we have a little fun. I told you all about my three favorite books of all time, but this list is a little different. Today, we are going to dive into my Top…

There’s something really special about being a gay man. Especially in this day and age, when it is so much more commonplace. There’s still work to be done for my community, but we’re moving towards a good place. I feel it in my bones.             With that being said, I have the amazing opportunity to…

Romantic comedies have always been my favorite kind of movie. Well, always being since I was fourteen and started comprehending the deeper meanings behind movies. I think the reason I love them so much is that I am an eternal optimist and hopeless romantic. It is entirely fitting that an optimistic hopeless romantic adores rom-coms.…

Mishaps & Mistakes was my debut story. In a way, it was also like my debut in the world. By the time I released my book, I was no stranger to the world. I had thousands of Instagram followers. I met an infinite number of people while working as a flight attendant. I had friends…

Part of my mission and this online discourse I do is to share what I have learned from my experiences in this life. It never occurred to me that I should share how emotionally taxing it can be to do something vulnerable, creative, and risky. I guess you could say most people just chalk it…

Okay, look, I know this sounds like such a Corporate America topic of conversation. And truth be told, I did learn this question from a job interview. I think it is something that can be relatable in any sense, though. It does not only relate to KPIs and dollar signs.             When I started writing…

Hi, darling kid. It’s me. It’s you, but way more experienced and heavier set. I just wanted to pop in and let you know that we’re doing pretty darn good. Well, for the most part. We need to have a chat about some stuff, okay? I have a list of things that I have been…

Now I am just about the farthest thing from a visual artist. I can write endlessly, day after day. But if you asked me to draw something, I’d probably have my five-year-old niece do it because she would do a heck of a lot better than I could. As a kid and a pre-teen, I…

Last week, I gave my explanation as to why I kept the real identities of the people in Mishaps & Mistakes hidden under false names. Today, I’m going to explain why I kept MY name on the cover. It isn’t nearly as dramatic as you’d probably expect it to be, especially since this is me…

I cannot even begin to tell you how hard it was to determine what was okay to put in Mishaps & Mistakes and what was totally unacceptable. Even now, over three months after I released it, these thoughts plague me. Did I say too much? Did I not say enough? Will this person hate me…

            While Chapter Nineteen, “Melodies as a Means of Escapism,” does a wonderful job of detailing how music saved me, there’s always more to the story. Music is truly a facet of who I am. It is easily my favorite topic and it serves as my way to feel my emotions in a deeply safe…

I cannot even begin to tell you how much your support means to me. By reading my writing and connecting with me online, you are actively helping me achieve some of my wildest dreams. Since middle school, I always wanted to be a publish writer. And here I am. Isn’t that something? It may have…